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August 7, 2013

Atheists: No Room for Us in Pro-Life?

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My new pro-life atheist friend Sarah Terzo, author and creator of the clinicquotes.com website, recently made a splash on Live Action’s Opinion page, by responding to an article written by a pro-life Christian.  I love what Sarah has to say, in part because her experience within the pro-life movement echoes my own.  I started Pro-Life Humanists in order to have a platform from which to eventually do full-time pro-life work. (I hope to begin fund-raising for project costs in the fall, and eventually for a salary as my workload and pro-life involvement at atheist functions increases).   After many years of being told by prominent pro-life groups that on account of my atheism I could only do public activism with them as a volunteer and not as an officially affiliated staff member, I was left with few other options.  These were groups whose public activism comprises only of the use of secular arguments, and yet despite how much they loved my work (to the point of frequently asking me to train their newcomers) I couldn’t be officially on staff simply because I don’t join in the prayer meetings at the end of the day or hold to “spiritual accountability”.

Sarah has graciously allowed Pro-Life Humanists the privilege of re-publishing her words.  We will hopefully be seeing more of Sarah’s in work on our site in the future.   PLH is almost entirely comprised of atheists, and we welcome Sarah Terzo, and other non-theist pro-lifers like her, with open arms.  Hopefully the rest of the movement will eventually follow suit.

To any theist readers of this blog, please read her words carefully.  If your faith motivates you to do pro-life work, please ensure that it does not thereby hinder your pro-life work!

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On being a pro-life atheist

By Sarah Terzo

I  was very disappointed to read Live Action’s article “Shawn Carney on the pro-life movement’s greatest victory” in which he says:

“And it has to be a religious movement because we can’t face this on our own. It’s too overwhelming. And when it’s based on our faith in God it means it’s something that’s never going away. There are few things as clearly religious in our country than the pro-life movement. It is one built of people of faith. And that’s our biggest asset….But that’s a crucial point and it’s the most important point – that this is a religious movement and that it is one made up of sinners.”

In fact, there are many pro-lifers who are not Christian. And it’s attitudes like Carney’s that make it very, very difficult for us to stay in the pro-life movement.

I am an atheist pro-lifer. I am not the only one. Secular Pro-life is an organization that draws nonbelievers from many walks of life. I can honestly say, if that supportive group did not exist, I may have left the pro-life movement long ago. Why? Because it is so demoralizing to be in a movement where so many of your fellow workers simply don’t want you there.

A while back, I posted a poll in a pro-life forum, where I asked pro-lifers if they would march side by side or work with a pro-life atheist. Almost half of them said they would not. They told me that they would not want to be “unequally yoked” with a nonbeliever.

Even worse was the reaction I got when I tried to volunteer at the local crisis pregnancy center. They were open and friendly when I told them I wanted to work there. They listened when I told them I had had a great deal of experience discussing abortion on the internet, and had helped numerous women choose life. Then I told them I was an atheist. “Sorry, we are a Christian ministry” the woman said. “We don’t have atheists or nonchristians working here. But you are free to give a donation.”

I asked them if I could have a position where I wouldn’t be called upon to counsel women. Could I do paperwork or answer the phone? The answer was no. They wanted no help from me.

As an experiment, I took up the phone book and called nine crisis pregnancy centers. I did not find a single one that would allow an atheist to volunteer.

It is things like this that sap a person’s strength and bring down their morale. Being a pro-lifer is hard. I get a lot of ostracism from friends and family due to my work at Live Action. I have family members who won’t even speak to me. I have lost friends over the years because they didn’t accept my pro-life work. Getting so little support from pro-lifers is completely disheartening.

I often talk with women who are considering abortion. Yet I find myself reluctant to refer them to crisis pregnancy centers. These are places whose workers feel I am not even worthy to shuffle papers, who wanted nothing to do with me. I usually do refer them to the centers, but I never feel good about it.

As for 40 Days for Life, I tried to listen to one of their webcasts once. They started with a prayer- ok, I understand, they are a Christian group. Then we were treated to fifteen minute of rhetoric about Jesus. They made broad statements such as “We are a movement of Christians…” “As Christians we know…” By the time I was twenty minutes into the broadcast, I had to shut it off. I felt completely alienated and, quite frankly, rejected. It was the most demoralized and hopeless I have ever felt in the pro-life movement.

I actually began wondering- am I wrong? Maybe I shouldn’t be involved in pro-life activities. Maybe I just don’t have a place here. Maybe being pro-life is just for Christians, and I should stop doing so much and just let them go it alone. I have nothing in common with these people. These feelings of demoralization were so strong that I actually stopped working on my pro-life website and signed off my pro-life forums for a week or so. I needed a break to sort out my priorities. It was just too much.

I wrote to 40 Days for Life and gave some suggestions. What if, before the prayer, they said “We are happy to have pro-lifers of all religions listening, but now we want to talk to the Christians..” or “we especially want to talk to the Christians among us…” A simple change of words. It would make so much of a difference. But I never heard back, even though I wrote several times.

It is also tragic that the constant linking of the pro-life movement with religion has hurt the movement. There are many people who see pro-lifers as a bunch of religious fanatics. I have had many conversations with nonbelievers where I have discussed the pro-life issue from various angles. In some of these conversations, by the end, the person agreed with me that abortion was wrong. They thoughtfully told me they had never looked at the issue that way before. But then the conversation turned to getting involved with the pro-life movement- and everything changed. “They are just a bunch of Christian fanatics. I’m not a Christian. Why would I want to work with those holy rollers?” “It’s all about god. I’m just not a white/Republican/Christian/Straight person.”

In focusing on religious opposition to abortion, the pro-life movement has cemented into popular culture the generalization that being pro-life is the Christian thing to be. And being pro-choice is the nonreligious thing to be. So many atheists have never considered the pro-life position because they see it as a facet of Christian dogma. They wouldn’t consider going to a pro-life rally or reading a pro-life book in the way they wouldn’t consider going to church or giving their money to Pat Robertson. It simply isn’t for them.

Not to mention that many pregnant women, the very women we most want to reach, are turned off by religious rhetoric. When sidewalk counselors go up to women entering clinics and tell them “Jesus wants you to have your baby” or “the Bible says abortion is wrong” non-Christians who have no interest in religion are not likely to be moved. Roderick P, Murphy runs a crisis pregnancy center, one of the rare few that allows non-Christians to volunteer. He tells this story:

“A former director of Daybreak, a Boston-area CBC once used this true anecdote about educated women clients in an appeal letter:

Carol was afraid. How could this happen to me? She looked in the Yellow Pages and found Daybreak. Carol was a young professional woman and she was sure she wanted an abortion. She came in for a pregnancy test over lunch hour. She had questions about abortion procedures and their safety.

The counselor was able to connect with Carol closely enough to discuss risks, emotional scarring and the development of life inside her. Then she handed Carol a brochure full of great information that would further answer her questions. As Carol thumbed through the booklet, she seemed grateful for such accurate information… And then she turned to the last page. Across it was the name of the organization that printed the brochure. Among believers it was a reputable name. But because the word “Christian” stood out so clearly to Carol, she tossed the brochure into the garbage, and walked out. In that instant, our opportunity to reach her was gone.”(1)

How many Carols have there been? Some people can’t be reached with Christian arguments. They simply can’t.

Atheists get treated very badly by the pro-life movement. And pro-lifers who follow religions other than Christianity are also treated badly. There is a pro-life pagans group on Facebook, and they often attract trolls. The sad thing is that the majority of trolls they get are not pro-choicers, but pro-lifers. Pro-lifers who try to convert them to Christianity, accuse them of child sacrifice, or tell them they can’t be pro-life. It is a sad thing. I wonder how many of them will finally give up and leave the pro-life movement.

There is a reason why the pro-life movement is predominantly Christian. And it is not the reason that Carney thinks it is. The reason is that non-Christians don’t feel welcome. And while right now the pro-life movement is not exclusively Christian, if the majority of pro-lifers have the same approach to pro-life work as Carney, it soon will be – because all the non-Christians will be gone.

1. Roderick P Murphy. Stopping Abortions at Death’s Door (Southbridge, Massachusetts: Taig Publishing 2009) 57 to 58

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Thanks again, Sarah Terzo for allowing us to share your words with our readers!  :)

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  1. I just want to say thank you for your commitment to life. I am a practicing Catholic and work in the Pro-Life movement full time. I find it appalling that atheists are treated that way based only on their atheistic beliefs. I know that we disagree on a whole heck of a lot, but I think one of the greatest things that the pro-life movement has going for it is that it is NOT a religious argument. Again, thank you for all you do and I hope that you can all find the avenues to do your work. I did want to ask a question. I approach this issue from a scientific and philosophical standpoint, but still have trouble reaching out to atheist, because as you pointed out, many people think it is a religious issue. Is there any advice that you could give me besides pointing out that I “have not once brought God into the conversation”, to get more atheist involved in doing things with our organization?

    Comment by Cody — August 8, 2013 @ 4:45 pm
  2. Hi Cody,

    Thank you for wanting to integrate atheists into your organization!

    I think that the difficulty in reaching atheists is one that any pro-life organization (this one included) will continue to have for some time now, simply due to the long-standing religious emphasis that has been placed on what should otherwise be a human rights issue. Many atheists automatically discount a pro-life argument as being religious in nature – even when it comes from someone like me who declares herself to be an atheist! In an upcoming blog I will share some of the reactions of my fellow atheists to the presence of pro-life atheists within the community.

    I honestly think that you are on the right track if you are using secular arguments to reach secular people and my advice would be to continue to do that and to encourage other pro-lifers to likewise keep their public face secular, even if their faith is what motivates them to care for the unborn. The Biblical passage about the pharisee praying publicly comes to mind as an example of why faith-based pro-lifers need to care about how their message is being perceived.

    Likewise when it comes to pro-life meetings. I attended a recent conference in which a prayer and worship time was offered as an opt-in event after and before the main session, rather than as something done with the whole body of attendees. If that became a regular practice at pro-life functions, pro-life events wouldn’t feel so much like church and might be more inviting to atheists.

    Comment by Kristine Kruszelnicki — August 8, 2013 @ 10:19 pm
  3. When talking to freethinkers, perhaps you should note that Jews are more supportive of legalized abortion than non-religious people and more strongly supportive of that position than conservative Catholics or evangelical Protestants are opposed to abortion. To a large extent, the support for legalized abortion constitutes an attempt by Jews and liberal Christians to impose their theological views on society at large.

    http://features.pewforum.org/abortion-slideshow/slide3.php

    http://www.pewforum.org/2009/10/01/support-for-abortion-slips2/

    In addition, you might note that Roe v. Wade was, to a large extent, was explicitly grounded in Jewish theology. The author was influenced by Jewish and liberal Christian ideology, not those who reject the influence of religion on law.

    Comment by NorthStar — August 11, 2013 @ 11:34 pm
  4. Do you have more info about Roe v Wade being influenced by Jewish ideology? I’ve not heard that but would love to read your source.

    Comment by Kristine Kruszelnicki — August 13, 2013 @ 1:11 am
  5. I have a note on Facebook on the topic dated Sunday, April 4, 2010. You should have access to it.

    Comment by NorthStar — August 13, 2013 @ 9:21 pm
  6. Feel free to repost it here, for the purpose of ongoing discussion. I hope eventually to be able to merge comments across all our sites but still working on finding an app/pluggin for that

    Comment by Kristine Kruszelnicki — August 23, 2013 @ 3:33 pm
  7. […] http://www.prolifehumanists.org/on-being-a-pro-life-atheist/ […]

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  8. I approved this comment, but I’m not sure what it’s for, since it’s only the URL. Your title suggests it’s not a spam link but I’m nonetheless confused. Can you clarify?

    Comment by Kristine Kruszelnicki — September 16, 2013 @ 3:30 pm
  9. If you are worried about the right-to-life movement excluding people who can help the movement, why did you create a group that excludes pro-lifers who are not “irreligious, nontheist, [or] secular-minded”?

    The best that can be said about the exclusive approach is that it increases the chances of influencing people who are in the “in” group toward the pro-life perspective. However, it, as described here, risks alienating people in the out group. In my experience, many of these exclusive pro-lifers are just using the movement to promote themselves within their religious group or other non-pro-life group. In that case, I think they usually do more damage than good by having a multiple-issue approach.

    Whatever happened to the single-issue approach? When I started in the pro-life movement, most groups were adamantly single-issue. That is, they promoted the life issue alone and, as a matter of strategy, took no stance on any other issue. Rather than be Christian pro-lifers or atheist pro-lifers or gay pro-lifers or Muslim pro-lifers, they united all of those people into a single group that benefited from its size and diversity. To suppress dissension, they encouraged people to get involved in other groups to promote other issues rather than hijack the pro-life movement to promote those causes. Why can we not just be pro-life pro-lifers again?

    Comment by NorthStar — August 10, 2013 @ 5:11 pm
  10. No one is excluded. If a theist wants to work with us they are welcome, so long as they keep things inclusive and secular. Taking a secular approach ensures that we’re all standing on common ground.

    Comment by Kristine Kruszelnicki — August 13, 2013 @ 1:13 am
  11. “Feel free to repost it here, for the purpose of ongoing discussion.”

    I think it is too long for a comment. In addition, I think the quotation needs to be marked up as a comment for easier reading.

    Comment by NorthStar — August 24, 2013 @ 3:31 pm
  12. If you go to about 72:55 into the video on this page you will hear from a Jewish woman who explicitly stated that she would vote against a pro-life resolution because she was Jewish. She stated that pro-life measures were “anti-Judaism.”

    http://www.oakland.michiganliveevents.com/

    Comment by NorthStar — August 30, 2013 @ 12:06 am
  13. “I think the quotation needs to be marked up as a comment for easier reading”

    What do you mean by that? If you’re talking about the comments thread, I’m looking for better comment pluggins to use with the site. Tweaks are still in order.

    Comment by Kristine Kruszelnicki — September 16, 2013 @ 3:24 pm
  14. I meant “marked up as a quotation.” They need to be able to see what is quotation and what is my text so that it does not just look like one big block of text.

    Comment by NorthStar — August 24, 2013 @ 3:37 pm
  15. Sarah I am just amazed by how informing your sight is and how insightful you are. I am a Christian and I would be proud to stand with you at any pro-life rally.
    Your friend Phil Baker

    Comment by Phil Baker — September 10, 2013 @ 10:15 pm
  16. […] of ultimately building a fully-funded pro-life organization that atheists can work in. (Read this post to learn how too many pro-life organizations won’t hire atheists) I’m asking you to […]

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  17. The About Us page of http://www.LifeNews.com doesn’t portray it as officially Christian, but I think it’s fair to call it essentially Christian. It seems to be closely associated with http://www.LiveAction.org, about which all the same could be said. Today LifeNews features a guest post by a representative of Secular Pro-Life:

    http://www.lifenews.com/2014/02/04/the-pro-life-movement-must-encourage-secular-participation-in-the-pro-life-cause/

    “. . .

    “Throughout all of these events, I was inspired by the number of religious pro-lifers who so warmly welcomed us. They said our speech was refreshing and our attendance encouraged them. They thanked us for our participation. Some people seemed downright relieved to have us there. It was a lovely response that recurred all weekend; it’s clear to me that most religious pro-lifers happily accept our presence. I think most religious pro-lifers actually want us to be more involved and visible in the pro-life movement.”

    “. . .”

    Comment by Acyutananda — February 5, 2014 @ 12:17 am
  18. It’s definitely Christian-run. Thankfully they do post stuff from atheists. I’ve had a few of my blog entries picked up by them.

    Comment by Kristine Kruszelnicki — February 6, 2014 @ 1:35 am
  19. […] and agnostics a voice in the movement, a voice that they so sorely need. Atheists often feel excluded, even hated, by the pro-life movement at large, and these amazing groups are pushing back a…. In fact, there are saying that anyone who is pro-life belongs in our movement. And the Christian […]

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  20. “In focusing on religious opposition to abortion, the pro-life movement has cemented into popular culture the generalization that being pro-life is the Christian thing to be. And being pro-choice is the nonreligious thing to be. So many atheists have never considered the pro-life position because they see it as a facet of Christian dogma. They wouldn’t consider going to a pro-life rally or reading a pro-life book in the way they wouldn’t consider going to church or giving their money to Pat Robertson. It simply isn’t for them.”

    This is definitely something I have noticed. I have decided that I WILL go to a pro-life rally if I get a chance. I have also read some good pro-life books. Since they are written by Christians, I see where their arguments are weak. I believe that I have a stronger pro-life position as an atheist. This life is all I have and I feel responsible for my actions in a way that Christianity robbed me of for so long. I try not to let my anger at Christians get in the way of my goal of ending abortion. I have met some nice Catholics which I happen to understand.

    Comment by Chandler Klebs — June 9, 2014 @ 1:46 am
  21. Super article! I am a Christian, but I am also annoyed with the exclusivity portrayed by many religious pro-life organizations. Being pro-life is about human rights and science, not religion.

    Comment by Annie Nolan — July 28, 2014 @ 3:12 pm
  22. Thanks, Annie! We appreciate your support. We can disagree on religion, but it’s good to be able to find common ground on this important human rights issue nonetheless! :)

    Comment by Kristine Kruszelnicki — August 21, 2014 @ 3:35 am

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